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  1. 1. Do you suffer from a mental illness?

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  2. 2. Do you know someone who suffers a mental illness

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On 31/03/2021 at 4:35 PM, Dalai said:

Every time I hear the C word it hits me hard. Even just reading the post about your friend I don't know... I've now spent too much time in Oncology wards (I lived in Paulette's hospital room the last two blocks - 2 weeks when in for the whole head radiotherapy and the last 9 weeks when trying the last resort immunology treatment Keytruda) and so know what's ahead for your golfing buddy! 

Just Sunday went for a small group drive through the back roads will fellow car enthusiasts. One bloke I have gone on a few drives with and am becoming friends with pulled me aside and spoke to me privately to say he would need to start Radiotherapy ASAP... Hearing it hit me for six. Hate the disease for its prevalence and insidiousness!   

Had my Radiation Planning Session & CT Scans today...   Am about to commence 7 weeks of Radiation Treatment shortly.

I'm feeling kind of numb really.  Health wise I feel fine, I'm still running, riding & swimming ok and feel well enough, yet they tell me that if this treatment doesn't work then anything else that they do will really only be palliative.  It's not the best news, but those are the cards I've been dealt.

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This is very sad news, its made me reflect Nearly two years ago I had a bike accident and suffered a traumatic brain injury. I spent two months in hospital. I think I have dodged a bullet. I was

The last two days have giving me great satisfaction.  For the first time in a very long time I have felt wanted and respected.  The first one was on tuesday i turned up to work (arvo/night shift)

Two years ago today on my 37th birthday as plenty here will remember I was arrested by police and put into care at the hospital for my own well being, happy to say I’m still making strides forward and

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Oh god mate that’s terrible news. I’m so sorry to hear that. 
Fingers crossed the treatment works as it should and you can kick this horrible disease. 

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Thanks Rox, but I honestly feel fine.  It probably sounds worse when it's written like that, and hopefully the Radiation Treatment will work, but the worst problem is that they don't know where the cancer is.  When I had the prostatectomy 18 months ago they thought they got it all as it had a good negative margin and the local lymph nodes were clear.  Since then my PSA is showing that the cancer is still present somewhere and growing rapidly, but they don't know where.  The hope is that it hasn't metastasised and gone somewhere else (eg bones etc) because if it has then that is classed as advanced cancer and the treatments for that are only palliative, and not curative.  Hopefully the cancer is still localised to where the prostate was and radiation treatment to that area will get it, but realistically it could have gone anywhere.

In general, Prostate Cancer is fairly slow growing and the 5 year survival rate is 95%, but if it has metastasised and got into the bones etc then the 5 year survival rate is only something like 10% which is not great.  But each person and each individuals case is different.

Unfortunately prostate cancers are over diagnosed and over treated, and I am acutely aware of that, but when your treating Urologist & Radiologist say that they would have this treatment if they were in my shoes then sometimes you've just got to trust the experts.  Having this much radiation treatment at my age (57) is not great, but I think I'd rather try to be in the 95% surviving more than 5 years than take a chance on being in the 10% that don't.

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38 minutes ago, Go Easy said:

Thanks Rox, but I honestly feel fine.  It probably sounds worse when it's written like that, and hopefully the Radiation Treatment will work, but the worst problem is that they don't know where the cancer is.  When I had the prostatectomy 18 months ago they thought they got it all as it had a good positive margin and the local lymph nodes were clear.  Since then my PSA is showing that the cancer is still present somewhere and growing rapidly, but they don't know where.  The hope is that it hasn't metastasised and gone somewhere else (eg bones etc) because if it has then that is classed as advanced cancer and the treatments for that are only palliative, and not curative.  Hopefully the cancer is still localised to where the prostate was and radiation treatment to that area will get it, but realistically it could have gone anywhere.

In general, Prostate Cancer is fairly slow growing and the 5 year survival rate is 95%, but if it has metastasised and got into the bones etc then the 5 year survival rate is only something like 10% which is not great.  But each person and each individuals case is different.

Unfortunately prostate cancers are over diagnosed and over treated, and I am acutely aware of that, but when your treating Urologist & Radiologist say that they would have this treatment if they were in my shoes then sometimes you've just got to trust the experts.  Having this much radiation treatment at my age (57) is not great, but I think I'd rather try to be in the 95% surviving more than 5 years than take a chance on being in the 10% that don't.

Hopefully your Ironman training and racing history  will help you mentally to get through this.  

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5 minutes ago, Prince said:

Hopefully your Ironman training and racing history  will help you mentally to get through this.  

Thanks Prince, yes I think it will help.  I'm also thankful that so far in life I've managed to get out do most of the things that I've wanted to do.  I've taken the chances and stepped outside my comfort zone many times and have been amply rewarded for it.  I've had a great life and that makes this news so much easier to accept.

Moving forward, I intend to maintain as much of an active lifestyle as I can.  I'll try to keep doing some short easy runs, rides & swims etc when I can, and will start looking at some race & event goals for when I'm better so that I have something to look forward to and help keep me motivated.  Keeping reasonably fit and healthy should help anyway, both physically and mentally.

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If someone comes to you with a clipboard and asks if you want to part of a study, say yes. If nothing else, you'll have PhD students all over you and not a single thing could possibly slip through the cracks. The more eyes on you the better.

Good luck Go Easy. 

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Sorry to hear GE - take it easy, keep that positive attitude and do what you can. Thats all you can do - and trust the experts (but also be aware, do know what they're doing, and stay informed I reckon).

Hope to catch up at another race in the future - it's been a while since we crossed paths! 

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12 hours ago, Go Easy said:

It's not the best news, but those are the cards I've been dealt.

I'm hoping those cards are the winning hand then GE. Of course they are... you'll be a cancer conqueror.

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I’m sending strength and love to everyone that’s going through a sh!tty time right now. I wish I could say or do something, anything, to make it better for I'm doing ok. I’ll never be a fan of Easter since Bretty left. Our last one was great. But I’m always grateful that if he had to leave me it was as it was. I’m so very lucky in that regard. 
 

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Sitting on a Qantas plane from Cairns to BNE to head to Sunny Coast. Dad in a spot of bother. Complicated medical needs, each impacting each other. Too commplicated to explain in less than 1000 words. Short end....below knee amputation has been rushed forwarded despite unstable heart.  

Flight cost was good. Flight near empty. Car hire, 950 for four days 🤬🤬🤬🤬 and accom was 350 per night. Some fortune in being put through to social worker who has got me accom opposite Nambour Hospital.....except dad at SCUH. But so grateful for cheaper accommodation. And the main medical teams are away for long weekend. Makes this more complicated. I wish our health system could provide proper support all the time. I have spent nearly every day this week on the phone. Not sure I have spoken to the samexpersin twice. I am EPO but I am never called. Grateful to get his mate an exemption to get in over last few days....as his mental health is not good. I got mine this afternoon.

Anyway......getting ready for a long lonely drive when I get in. All relative, I know.....but my reality ATM.

Lucky my unit sold and went through Thursday to help fund this.

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On 01/04/2021 at 11:18 PM, Go Easy said:

Had my Radiation Planning Session & CT Scans today...   Am about to commence 7 weeks of Radiation Treatment shortly.

I'm feeling kind of numb really.  Health wise I feel fine, I'm still running, riding & swimming ok and feel well enough, yet they tell me that if this treatment doesn't work then anything else that they do will really only be palliative.  It's not the best news, but those are the cards I've been dealt.

Geez mate, that sucks.

But as you say, do what you need to for that 95% chance.

I have a very good friend of mine who is currently battling very advanced breast cancer. I am sure that the chemo is only the secondary force in her treatment as absolutely nothing can compete with her attitude.

I am sure you will be on par in the attitude department!

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On 02/04/2021 at 11:01 AM, Go Easy said:

Moving forward, I intend to maintain as much of an active lifestyle as I can.  I'll try to keep doing some short easy runs, rides & swims etc when I can, and will start looking at some race & event goals for when I'm better so that I have something to look forward to and help keep me motivated.  Keeping reasonably fit and healthy should help anyway, both physically and mentally.

Thanks for the comments & well wishes, it is appreciated.  To help with my plans on staying active I do have a couple of questions regarding Home Trainers and Zwift etc that people might be able to help me with, but I'll post them elsewhere so it doesn't clog up the Mental Health thread.

In regard to having race goals, I think the chance to catch up with others at some upcoming events is important to many of us, regardless of whether we actually compete or not.  I'd definitely be keen on catching up with a few more of you guys at an event somewhere, so don't be shy on letting us know where you're planning on racing.  If everything goes to plan I'd love to make an appearance at the World Champs in Townsville 2022, but I've got a few hurdles to get over before then though...  Catch Ya!

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3 hours ago, Go Easy said:

  If everything goes to plan I'd love to make an appearance at the World Champs in Townsville 2022, but I've got a few hurdles to get over before then though...  Catch Ya!

you will get over this setback, and you will be there. 

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20 hours ago, Go Easy said:

 

Thanks for the comments & well wishes, it is appreciated.  To help with my plans on staying active I do have a couple of questions regarding Home Trainers and Zwift etc that people might be able to help me with, but I'll post them elsewhere so it doesn't clog up the Mental Health thread.

In regard to having race goals, I think the chance to catch up with others at some upcoming events is important to many of us, regardless of whether we actually compete or not.  I'd definitely be keen on catching up with a few more of you guys at an event somewhere, so don't be shy on letting us know where you're planning on racing.  If everything goes to plan I'd love to make an appearance at the World Champs in Townsville 2022, but I've got a few hurdles to get over before then though...  Catch Ya!

I’m in for the Townsville catch up.

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2 hours ago, Ronnie said:

I’m in for the Townsville catch up.

Me too (all going to plan!)

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Only minor, but Ironman has been canned for a 3rd time! (2nd for me) May 2020 turned into May 2021, now September 2021. 

I'm sucking up the September date on the basis that (luckily) my contract ends at the end of October now (being extended). I was hoping to look for a new job in May, but as much as this place shits me (I am sick of repeatedly asking people to do their work or randomly changing processes), they allow me to work from home for 4 days a week.

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21 minutes ago, MissJess said:

Only minor, but... 

Even the little things can effect you big time, and everyone's path is different.

I'm a big believer that things always happen for a reason, though sometimes it's a bit hard to understand the reason!

Good luck on the work scene, hopefully things will work out for the best.

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Well, it doesn't rain, it pours. Went to the doctor last week after bouts of burping over the last couple of weeks, which I think is excessive. He reckons I might have silent reflux. He sent off for a bunch of blood tests and put me on PPIs for the acid production. I've dropped alcohol, fizzy drinks and chocolate. At least the crazy amounts of burping has stopped. 

So that might be Ironman over before I even get started. I've been scouring the internet to find ONE person who has any form of reflux and is a long distance triathlete. Just a bunch of articles saying how bad running is, and how riding can cause issues too. :( 

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21 minutes ago, MissJess said:

Well, it doesn't rain, it pours. Went to the doctor last week after bouts of burping over the last couple of weeks, which I think is excessive. He reckons I might have silent reflux. He sent off for a bunch of blood tests and put me on PPIs for the acid production. I've dropped alcohol, fizzy drinks and chocolate. At least the crazy amounts of burping has stopped. 

So that might be Ironman over before I even get started. I've been scouring the internet to find ONE person who has any form of reflux and is a long distance triathlete. Just a bunch of articles saying how bad running is, and how riding can cause issues too. :( 

I had reflux after having pancreaitis, which culminated in having my gall bladder and some of my pancreas removed.  I didn't burp much but I would suddenly throw up whilst running and the distance I ran got shorter and shorter. It started at about 15-20km but at its worst, had me that I couldn't run more than 5km.

I went to see a sports Dr and NSWIS and he knew of it but said there was a tablet that I needed to take twice a week at something like $100 a pop. (this was back in the early naughties) or wait and stick to to an ultra bland diet.

I did the latter but it took some time.  I don't remember it causing me too many issue on the bike.  Mine was a direct result of the surgery though.

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35 minutes ago, MissJess said:

Well, it doesn't rain, it pours. Went to the doctor last week after bouts of burping over the last couple of weeks, which I think is excessive. He reckons I might have silent reflux. He sent off for a bunch of blood tests and put me on PPIs for the acid production. I've dropped alcohol, fizzy drinks and chocolate. At least the crazy amounts of burping has stopped. 

So that might be Ironman over before I even get started. I've been scouring the internet to find ONE person who has any form of reflux and is a long distance triathlete. Just a bunch of articles saying how bad running is, and how riding can cause issues too. :( 

Not meaning to make light of your situation.........but sometimes if you don't laugh you will cry!!

I guess you could count yourself lucky its burping and not farting ☠️🤢😝

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On 13/04/2021 at 3:23 PM, MissJess said:

Well, it doesn't rain, it pours. Went to the doctor last week after bouts of burping over the last couple of weeks, which I think is excessive. He reckons I might have silent reflux. He sent off for a bunch of blood tests and put me on PPIs for the acid production. I've dropped alcohol, fizzy drinks and chocolate. At least the crazy amounts of burping has stopped. 

So that might be Ironman over before I even get started. I've been scouring the internet to find ONE person who has any form of reflux and is a long distance triathlete. Just a bunch of articles saying how bad running is, and how riding can cause issues too. :( 

Hey MJ,  no longer a triathlete but doing more and longer endurance events.  Had a reflux problem for a few years that has been hard to control.  I didn't even know that's what it was because the reflux was happening when I was sleeping at night.  Saw a specialist and he diagnosed it.  ( I ignored it when I had the burping problem - yeah I'm your typical bloke.)

I only noticed when I was struggling to breath when doing any sort of activity.  Apparently the reflux burns your bronchial tubes when it gets bad enough.  Feels a bit like having asthma when it was at its worst.

Anyway I've had to swear off most of the things that I like which does seem to help.  So in addition to the things you mention its no coffee, spicy food, citrus, booze blah, blah blah etc.  Shits me to tears but its the only way to manage it so that I can breathe.

Oddly, I do find that the longer I go, the more relief I get.  I did a 24hr event a couple of weeks ago and suffered for about the first four hours before I came good.  

One thing I have found is that by changing my my running gait, so that I run a bit smoother (although that can be hard on trails) and I'm not banging up and down and inflaming my bronchial tubes it is a bit better.  Road riding is OK.  

Don't know that I can help much but I wouldn't give up on IM, it is a pain in the arse (the effects of reflux not IM 😄), but if you can stay disciplined with your diet, and get it in control then hopefully you should be OK.

Hang in there.

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Thanks @lawman yeah the burping was concerning as I was burping a lot, the +1 thought it was not too much of an issue (and it was endearing he said 🙄) but I was seeing as an issue. I'm down to one coffee (one shot) a day. I'll start weaning a bit further. Hopefully with the wedge pillow I can make sure I get proper rest and not need the coffee anymore!

I might talk to the exercise physiologist and get my gait checked. I think I don't bounce a lot as it is. I may PM you about the rest.

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The dog died today, just a touch over one year to the day the kids Grandma died of Covid. Explaining concepts around death and comforting a 7 and 9 year old is hard, when you just want to curl up into a ball and be sad and hopeless.

But I don't get the luxury as those kids need me, at some point I don't know when I assume we break and give up

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1 hour ago, BarryBevan said:

The dog died today, just a touch over one year to the day the kids Grandma died of Covid. Explaining concepts around death and comforting a 7 and 9 year old is hard, when you just want to curl up into a ball and be sad and hopeless.

But I don't get the luxury as those kids need me, at some point I don't know when I assume we break and give up

 

So sorry for your loss.  Our dog passed just over a year ago.   2 years before that my mother passed from cancer,.  Our kids are now 9 and 11 so very similar age to yours.  They were just starting to deal with mums death when the dog passed.  I have no advice to give other than to say in my case it got better with time.  There are still nights where they come out in tears at bed time, but it is now once every couple of weeks where as it used to be every night.

I have felt like a broken man since mum passed, not sure I will ever be whole again and a big part of that for me was seeing the kids in such pain and not being able to do a thing about it.  I am not sure if any of this helps but you are not alone in your feelings. 

Also don't be afraid to show emotion in front of the kids, if they are anything like ours there will be times they support you and times you support them!

All the best mate.

 

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9 hours ago, Toolish said:

 

So sorry for your loss.  Our dog passed just over a year ago.   2 years before that my mother passed from cancer,.  Our kids are now 9 and 11 so very similar age to yours.  They were just starting to deal with mums death when the dog passed.  I have no advice to give other than to say in my case it got better with time.  There are still nights where they come out in tears at bed time, but it is now once every couple of weeks where as it used to be every night.

I have felt like a broken man since mum passed, not sure I will ever be whole again and a big part of that for me was seeing the kids in such pain and not being able to do a thing about it.  I am not sure if any of this helps but you are not alone in your feelings. 

Also don't be afraid to show emotion in front of the kids, if they are anything like ours there will be times they support you and times you support them!

All the best mate.

 

Thanks, loss is hard as adults we just do what we have to. 
 

seeing your 7 year old just crushed and it was one year to the day he lost his grandma to Covid. He joined the dots and said what’s the point in life when everything you love dies.

worried about him

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10 hours ago, Ayto said:

Nothing to offer except to say thoughts are with you and yours BB.

Keep forging on as best you can.

Kids are resilient, seemed much more robust today. Has Auskick tomorrow then soccer coaching with me doing my best Alex Ferguson impression and matches on Saturday so engaged.

He has started guitar and we wrote a song together

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After weaning off my current meds, today was the day for me to start back on stimulant medication for my ADHD.

When I saw my wife at lunch, she asked me how it was going?  I told her I forgot to take them (I have a daily reminder set so I don't forget to take them).  She just laughed at me......

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Not sure if this should be in the MH thread or Good News thread.  Things at work are better but not great, I'd say I'm more 'frustrated' than stressed at the moment and it's a feeling a lot of us on the big project are feeling.

However, the good news is, for the first time since starting the job early August, I'm meeting some colleagues next week at HQ!  We've been given permission to get together for an Senior Leaders workshop.  Also allowed to stay overnight, my first time in a hotel since 2019.

Meeting my 4 peers, our manager and also 3 of the managers that report to me.  Never been so excited about a work meeting.😀

 

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And just like that, I am reminded of reality. 

A friend passed away from cancer in 2008, leaving a wife and five kids. I just found out his mother and mother-in-law passed away last week. The wife has to deal with another terrible situation. 

FM

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14 hours ago, Flanman said:

How often to do have thoughts then think, HTFU, you big softc*ck. It’s tough sometimes.

FM

I have to constantly remind myself that without bad times there is no good. Without struggle there is no peace. Helps me to sit in the negativity for a little while, knowing it is the first step to the next positive phase.

It can be really tough at times though.

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