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Mental Health  

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  1. 1. Do you suffer from a mental illness?

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    • Maybe - yet to see a doctor about it
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  2. 2. Do you know someone who suffers a mental illness

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4 hours ago, nealo said:

In saying that if there is anyone on your mind that you worry about or think about, send them a message or make a call, it may be all they need.

^^ Precisely this.  I always see people say "if you ever want to talk, please call me" and I'm guilty of it also, but the thing is with people that are suffering from any type of mental illness, is they won't call a lot of the time, they will just suffer alone and not want to disturb anyone.

I've had a few battles lately and still am and I'm one of those that won't / didnt call despite me preaching the direct opposite to everyone else.

So yes, please call your friends if you are worried about them, or not even worried about them, just call and have a chat, listen to them and you may pick up on something.

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On 06/03/2019 at 1:21 PM, KieranR said:

^^ Precisely this.  I always see people say "if you ever want to talk, please call me" and I'm guilty of it also, but the thing is with people that are suffering from any type of mental illness, is they won't call a lot of the time, they will just suffer alone and not want to disturb anyone.

I've had a few battles lately and still am and I'm one of those that won't / didnt call despite me preaching the direct opposite to everyone else.

So yes, please call your friends if you are worried about them, or not even worried about them, just call and have a chat, listen to them and you may pick up on something.

@KieranR

 

Go easy on yourself there mate. Sometimes those calls are the hardest ones to make. You rang me this arvo, which was brilliant, and we had some serious chats. Both the chatting and the phone call took immense courage to do. Well done lad 🤘😎✌️

 

Like we talked about mate, one day at a time and do what you need to do to feel better. It'll take time to sort out, but you've got that in spades 👍

 

Cheers mate. Take it easy ✌️😎

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2 minutes ago, FFF1077 said:

You rang me this arvo, which was brilliant

You both rock.

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And while I'm here... 

 

Today was ****ing full on. 

 

My girlfriend and I have been talking about moving in together in November. With a view to bank one of our wages every month and save together for a place of our own. I really really like her.... Really really like her... You get the drift.

Now I'm cool with the idea of living with her, Mooj gets on well with her and she is getting used to it too. All good. 

 

Now the issue - I'm dirt poor. She is not. She is putting away money for a bond for the new place. Now I can't save anything, my debt levels and wage levels are mismatched. And I feel that I will be at the "new place" as a guest having not contributed to the bond down payment. So I said that I wanted to push the move in date out 6 months to at least give me half a chance of raising some cash towards the move. She took this as me not being certain about the move/us and has retreated from communication. 

 

I am worried that she will move on having not got what we originally talked about. It kinda feels like that. 

 

Was I wrong with the money thing? Have I ****ed it? 

 

 

*yes I have discussed the above with her. Want to vent here in an attempt to clear my mind. 

 

Thanks all. Love yuz ✌️

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As the wise one said - look inside your heart and the heart of hers. You both will know the answer. Be prepared to make a leap of faith. 

Life is too short to worry about anything other than giving your heart and soul to each other .

FM

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24 minutes ago, FFF1077 said:

 

Was I wrong with the money thing?

 

She's going to be aware of the fact she makes more than you.

Its not likely you'll ever be 50/50 in all aspects of the relationship at all times, so don't sweat it.

Have another chat and explain you're worried about not pulling your weight.

Maybe she'll make you work it off somehow, if you're lucky ;)

Just be open and see how it goes, you might have to swallow a bit of pride and accept being a lesser monetary contributor.

 

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Reverse the roles in your head mate.if you were loaded and she was a uni student or volunteering at the dog pound would you care if she could or couldn’t contribute to the bond. 

The main thing is that you guys are in love. If you make money an issue now it will set a bad tone for the relationship. Contribute where and when you can. Very few relationships are fiscally equal. 

Shouldnt matter. 

Dont let a stubborn male ego ruin something good. 

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FFF, money is just money.  Sure you don't have to pool it together as such, but if moving in together is important to you both and is possible.... if you get my drift.  Now, think of it this way.  What if you were much more financially stable than she was?  Would that have mattered to you?  

Rob and I were 19 and 20 when we moved in together.  Haven't had separate bank accounts since then!

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8 minutes ago, Tyno said:

She's going to be aware of the fact she makes more than you.

Its not likely you'll ever be 50/50 in all aspects of the relationship at all times, so don't sweat it.

Have another chat and explain you're worried about not pulling your weight.

Maybe she'll make you work it off somehow, if you're lucky ;)

Just be open and see how it goes, you might have to swallow a bit of pride and accept being a lesser monetary contributor.

 

Thanks mate 

 

Yeah she knows what I earn and I know what she earns. Open book there. If she makes me work it off.... LOL I'll get back to you 🤔😂😂✌️

 

 

Beautiful words @Flanman😎✌️

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This place is awesome. I hope it never loses it's awesomeness.

The call for support can be the hardest thing to ever do. And when you make it and you don't get a response to what you needed most (as happened to me today), it makes it so much harder to make it again. 

Kudos to you Kieran for making it and kudos to you FFF for being there for Kieran and then posting here for you. 

I can tell anyone and everyone, I know how hard it can be to reach out for help and I know how shit it feels when there is no one there when you need it most. I can guarantee, I will always, at any time be there for anyone who needs it. ANY.TIME.

 

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FFF, big deal about the money. If you both "really really like" each other, then it doesn't matter. If you really do feel bad about it, pull your weight around the house a bit more. You work early, so make sure you're there when she gets home to make her evenings a bit easier for her.

Grow the "really really like".

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Thanks for the chat Sam, appreciate it.

For now I'm just enjoying going 4wding in my Ute, walking the coast with my fishing rod & spear gun and trying to catch some fish 

My wife's very concerned about me, and isn't really keen on me heading out by myself,  but I've made a commitment to her & the doctors that if i feel like im having an episode that i call them immediately.

For those that don't know, two weeks ago on my birthday i called the police on myself, i was sitting at home alone and was about to cut myself with my hunting knife, So i'm now in the care of the Pilbara Mental health crisis team which consists of psychiatrist, psychologist, nurse and social worker who are working with me.

Thanks to Sam, Stikman, Willie, RBR, BCJ and Rimmer for the chats over the past couple weeks - much appreciated

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Wow mate, thats full on. 

I really dont know what to say, as Im sure anything I do say will feel tokenistic. 

Im just really glad you were able to reach out, Im sure that means you feel you have plenty to stick around for. 

Good luck mate, take care and Im glad this place and its awesome people have been there for you. 

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Money & parents were the only two things my wife & I would argue about.

so we agreed both our parents were annoying but they are the only ones we have. So we just go with t now.

we also pooled our money & we both get an allowance. We can blow that money on anything we want but that’s it until the next fortnight.

My wife is happy doing reduced hours at work. She does more around the house then me (which isn’t hard). We have both agreed for me to be successful at work I need a strong support network at home.

i guess my point is although u may not make as much money  as her you can do contribute it more to the relationship than just money. 

 

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4 minutes ago, Bored@work said:

Money & parents were the only two things my wife & I would argue about.

so we agreed both our parents were annoying but they are the only ones we have. So we just go with t now.

we also pooled our money & we both get an allowance. We can blow that money on anything we want but that’s it until the next fortnight.

My wife is happy doing reduced hours at work. She does more around the house then me (which isn’t hard). We have both agreed for me to be successful at work I need a strong support network at home.

i guess my point is although u may not make as much money  as her you can do contribute it more to the relationship than just money. 

 

Non-tri Gold!!

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1 hour ago, KieranR said:

Thanks for the chat Sam, appreciate it.

For now I'm just enjoying going 4wding in my Ute, walking the coast with my fishing rod & spear gun and trying to catch some fish 

My wife's very concerned about me, and isn't really keen on me heading out by myself,  but I've made a commitment to her & the doctors that if i feel like im having an episode that i call them immediately.

For those that don't know, two weeks ago on my birthday i called the police on myself, i was sitting at home alone and was about to cut myself with my hunting knife, So i'm now in the care of the Pilbara Mental health crisis team which consists of psychiatrist, psychologist, nurse and social worker who are working with me.

Thanks to Sam, Stikman, Willie, RBR, BCJ and Rimmer for the chats over the past couple weeks - much appreciated

Well done on making those commitments mate. Awesome work 😎🤘✌️

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7 hours ago, Bored@work said:

She does more around the house then me (which isn’t hard). We have both agreed for me to be successful at work I need a strong support network at home.

i guess my point is although u may not make as much money  as her you can do contribute it more to the relationship than just money. 

 

That's pretty much how it is for us, plus Mrs FP says she does more so I can rest from training. It just doesn't work if one of you its not aligned with the other. When Mrs FP returns to work, that axis shifts and rightly so. She's a CPA and is keen to start getting back into the workplace.

No one system works for ever, the ability to talk, compromise and just some sails is absolutely key IMO.

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