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Dalai last won the day on April 21 2017

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  1. Dalai

    Regrets - Do you have any?

    @Go EasyAgreed that I was fortunate to share 18 years together. Will eventually get back to remembering the pre-cancer days - unfortunately the strongest memories are still that last year and her taking her last breath in my arms. I often told her I loved her already, but fortunate too in that it wasn't sudden and that it initially responded to the Chemo (was always know being Grade 3 Stage 4 it was only a temporary solution) as that allowed me to spend every moment of those last 53 weeks from diagnosis with her. I ended up taking over 16 weeks off as carers leave including two stints living in the hospital room. 2 Weeks while she undertook whole head radiotherapy when it replapsed the first time after Chemo and the last 9 weeks when we tried our last option with self funded dosages of Keytruda... Got to tell her frequently how much I loved her and she was able to reciprocate till those last weeks.
  2. Dalai

    Regrets - Do you have any?

    Spending as much time training as I did and not giving my wife my undivided attention. What I could give to replay all those times I was too tired to talk... Biggest regret which eats at me often!
  3. Dalai

    The Mental Health thread

    Don't tell me that! Agree about the after dinner binge. I find if I can hold off for an hour or more I tend not to go for the chocolate if in the house!
  4. Dalai

    OT saving lives

    Nice Ex-Hasbeen! My donation last week was only my 15th...
  5. Dalai

    The Mental Health thread

    I've always had a sweet tooth and went hard on the chocolate after my wife passed away 20 months ago. Otherwise was eating junk or what friends and family would bring me as I didn't cook anything for over 3 months! Decided I had to break the cycle so recommenced ordering groceries weekly from Aussie Farmers (really upset they folded recently as you could select ingredients rather than meal boxes). It really helped as I grew up hating food waste as my dad died before I was two so we didn't have a lot of money - therefore having a few veggies in the fridge again forced me to cook a couple of times a week. Am back to eating okay most of the time now - thankfully I can handle the same meal over days as I usually cook a big wok of food and package and freeze in takeaway containers for dinners. Salads are easy to throw together at work for lunches. As to the shopping and buying junk. Have restricted my chocolate buying to only buying blocks when half price $2.50. Thankfully the big chains have only reduced to 40% off. My waistline and wallet have been grateful!
  6. Dalai

    Tour de Cure

    Just donated Michael. Really appreciate you doing this mate - a cure needs to be found!
  7. Dalai

    Hell of West Room Available

    Stayed at the Gunsynd Motel on my drive from Cooroy back to Melbourne. A little dated but very clean. Small pool was also a bonus as it was in the 40's!
  8. Dalai

    The Mental Health thread

    Life is too short. Cancer is unfortunately far too prevalent! Coming up to 18 months since I lost my wife to this scourge. Not a day goes by where the hurt isn't there... Please don't take one second for granted with the ones you love!
  9. Dalai

    How did shane kelly ride this?

    That's the one Ruley!
  10. Dalai

    How did shane kelly ride this?

    He didn't ride that at the Austral on Saturday... Still keeping an eye out to purchase an Mike Burrows designed Giant MCR. Or better yet a Lotus but doubt that will ever happen without loosing a kidney! They sold the frame mold to a mob that sold it as the Stealth for a while. Ruley had one for a bit!
  11. Same for normal older people...
  12. Dalai

    What gets on my quince....

    I realise it was well intended, just gets on my quince; some days more than others. People at work did learn very quickly not to use the generic social greeting "how are you?" as I told them the truth!
  13. Dalai

    What gets on my quince....

    Having gone through and still going through a tough time with the passing of my wife last year... People who offer advice or say "I know how you must feel" who haven't or aren't going through the same... No you don't! Or better yet when they say she would have wanted me to get over it and move on! Said taking her ashes back home OS which I did in October will give me closure... Still wake up and come home to an empty house!
  14. Dalai

    The Mental Health thread

    Possibly helped that you have your boys DD? When we couldn't have children (we had IVF lined up but my wife was unwell - thought initially to be MS but ended up being just lumped in the fibromyalgia /chronic fatigue bucket) we took the positive that we had each other... Now that she has passed away, coming home to and leaving an empty quiet house makes her being gone all too real! Sometimes I get so angry with people! Seeing couples arguing or sitting together but heads buried in their phones makes me want to jump in and scream at them to be nice to each other and not to take them for granted! 15 months now since she passed away and all is still crap!
  15. Dalai

    The good news thread

    Or this Unicorn clip...