Consider going west young man...Ko Olina. About 40 mins drive west of airport. Seems to satisfy your preferences. www.koolina.com
Large resort type development, with lots of hotel and dining options. 4 large protected sea ponds. A place to stay and relax
There is also a new Disney hotel in the Ko Olina area - water slide, and kid stuff, if kids will be part of your "companions".
Some good restaurants too...Roy's and Monkey Pod (Peter Merriman's) - Hawaii-Pacific cuisine - but not formal dressy (it is hawaii).
Does this seem to fit?
Let me do a bit more research and i will get back with you. Internet sucks here in Sydney. My elder 2 daughters have used up all of the monthly data, and have to wait for 2 more days until the speed gets back to usual pace.