After separation from the wife and getting life and kids stable I've now found myself a really nice woman that seems to be a keeper.
I have 2 kids aged 12 and 10 and she has none. She is 35, sane and really stable in life.
When I first met her I asked where she could see herself in 5 years. She said blah blah a couple of kids blah blah. At this early stage of the relationship I thought that having more kids would be ok. A bit of time has past since that first conversation and I have now decided that I don't want to go back to nappies and being a taxi for kids for another 10 or so years. It was a hard decision for me to make as I thought to be a complete family again then a new partner would either have her own kids or we would have some together.
I knew I had to tell her my feelings and did this in a very difficult conversation. I effectively told her i was walking away as i didn't/don't want to be that guy from stopping her from having kids. The unconditional love that kids bring is greater that the love I can give her. She then went on to say she was willing to not have kids to be with me. She wanted a month or so to think about it while she got to know me some more.
The relationship has been going really well and we havent spoken about the kids thing since that day.
I really like this woman a lot and would like to be with her but the real question I have to try and answer is "Can I be that person to prevent her from having children?" Even if she decides that she is willing to be with me and not have her own children, will I ever feel guilt free? Am i being a prick? Shall I walk away effectively taking that choice away from her?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated from the Tranny collective.