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  1. 5 points
    Thanks everyone for your comments, PM's, Texts etc. Appreciate the thoughts. Dave T, your story is familiar with me. Your awesome wife was one of those who took the time to message me some words of support. Like yourself, I have always gone above and beyond financially, and spent the first 4.5 years post separation paying increased CSA (my choice) as well as the mortgage on the family home (again, my choice). Neither choice was overly bright in hindsight, however at the time I felt it was the right thing to do. Again, like yourself, when you continue to get shafted and and CSA is increased, there is no recognition of the extra you have paid over many years. Even now, despite paying a touch over $300 per month for my daughters braces none of that can be taken into consideration and applied against the CSA payment required. Unfortunately, I now have a decision to make which is to continue to pay the braces, or the increased CSA amount. Unfortunately I can't do both. The above specifically resonates with me. I am angry, full of spite, and bitter. Unfortunately, that spills over and impacts everyone around me, especially my wife, who is of course my biggest supporter. I try to avoid this but it is just so bloody hard. Bel understands, but eventually she will reach her limit (and fair enough). We are trying really hard to "live in the moment" as well. We are still working towards fulfilling all of the plans we had in place for the next 5 years or so, career wise, financially, travel etc. We are determined to not put our life on hold waiting for the moment things might turn around. Life is too short. I miss them terribly, and I worry. I have no idea how they are travelling and if they are ok. I am in touch with their schools and from what they tell me there has been no impact so far. Time will tell. In the meantime, I got to spend time with my stepdaughter and new grand daughter yesterday. It's not the same as there is still a hole, but it sure is nice to have a new little one around to love and watch grow. Thanks again for all the support. Just goes to show was a great community this place is Ayto
  2. 3 points
    My wife and daughter are heading to the States in June to see some relos - I didn't want to do the long trip and I've been there a few times before. So I'm heading off with my young bloke to the Warrumbungles, Cobar, Broken Hill, down through outback Victoria and back through the high country on a 'boy's own adventure'. It will be nice to get away from civilisation for a while. Might read that book while we're away - I ordered it last night.
  3. 2 points
    Firstly, thanks to Flanman and Johan who answered my call re: finding someone who'd been to the DPRK. As much as I was keen to do the Pyongyang marathon for sporting but also personal interest reasons, I naturally felt some concern. The couple of people I did meet/spoke to, who'd been in, allayed my fears and I'm now so glad I went. It definitely was a trip/marathon of a lifetime. I went with Koryo group who have been going into the DPRK for 22/23 years now and are the most experienced, well connected and respected travel group for this region. They were incredibly professional. You have to be guided in North Korea, whether you go on a group tour or hire guides and drivers. Naturally, our group was there for the marathon so it was a group of like minded individuals. Pyongyang is an incredible, and yes, despite stories to the contrary, functioning, city. In fact it is really rather beautiful. Willow trees line the river and the blossom came out the week we were there. Although slightly shabby and aging, it is also impeccably clean. You definitely notice the lack of cars and also the lack of visual pollution (signage). Pyongyang is the capital and privileged but we did travel down to the DMZ/border and travelled through the country side and villages on the way. Oxen are still used in the country side and it is sad to see the affects of mismanaged agricultural practices made worse by their susceptibility to floods. Saying that, it is no where near as bad as our media makes out. It's funny: some things we saw or were told were weird, and yet, so much was so much more normal than I expected. We were there the week of the big Kim Il Sung 105th birthday (you would have seen all the media on tv). We saw them cleaning the streets and squares, and practicing their parades. A lot of the women wore their national dresses and we saw them partaking in 'mass dances' which was lovely to see. The marathon itself was an absolute blast. Perfect weather conditions - blue sky an sunshine albeit a little wind. We started at Kim Il Sung Stadium and this year they changed it from a 4 loop course to an out and back. They had three distances: marathon, 1/2 marathon and a 10km. We all entered the stadium in front of a crowd of 50,000 cheering people (the closest I'll ever get to feeling like an Olympian!) and lined up in the centre in groups to 'pay our respects' (ie. bow) to the pictures of the 2 Kims. The North Koreans are well practiced in lining up - us westerners were rather a bedraggled lot! The marathon started first and we went left the stadium out onto the main streets of Pyongyang, past the Triumphant Arch, the Kim Il Sung Square (the big square you see in the media when they're doing their military parades) and out to the city limits. The streets were lined with people and kids clapping and cheering and saying Ppali Ppali (Bali Bali - bit like alle alle/ go go...). Just like any other marathon, parents/grandparents holding kids and waving; kids grouped together watching and giggling etc... In fact this was one of the times we were relatively 'free' to see NK society functioning on a sunny Sunday. Due to tearing an ankle ligament (again) and having a month off running right in the middle of training, I knew I wasn't going to make the new cut off time of 4hrs. Yes, they changed it from 4:30 to 4:00 about two days before I flew out. That's just typical North Korea for you - things change. Roll with it. There was an option to drop down to the 21km but I really wanted to do this marathon so I stuck with the 42. At about 18km I thought there was a slim chance I could make the cut off - then I turned at the 21km straight into a head wind and realised I'd been running with the assistance of a tail wind. Damn! Oh well. As much a I hate wearing a fuel belt, I decided to carry one here as there only water to be provided every 5km. This was fortunate as for a BOP'er like myself (well in this event anyway - The North Korean only put their elite in so the tail end was just foreigners) they started to remove the stations after this and also remove the road marker cones! Talk about NK efficiency! At about 35km the I spied the dreaded yellow sweeper bus. Two North Koreans were standing by the door and as I came up they said 'Miss, you need to get on the bus'. I noticed two runners further ahead from me and guessed that they'd decided to keep running so I declined. "No thanks" and just kept running - not sure whether that was a dumb move or not. They weren't in uniform so I wasn't too worried. I trundled on as I figured, if I don't make the finish line, I'd rather run back to the stadium than take the bus. With 2-3km to go the bus came past again. I debated whether to run around the non-door side of the bus. This time they were a little more forceful and said 'Miss - you are the last (which I was most definitely not), you have to get on the bus' to which I replied "I'm not the last and I'm not getting on the bus". I tried to keep looking straight ahead and not give them eye contact and just keep running. I could see the arms of other athletes who'd done what they were told, resting along the window sill. So on I went, knowing now that I'd missed the 4hr cut off. Oh well. Within about 1km the bus came by and I'm not sure whether there had been a mutiny on board or what but the driver let the runners off. One guy got off right beside me a said 'well done you for being stubborn. I wished I hadn't got on as now I feel I haven't done the full marathon. We all admired you'. Ha ha. So I made it back but they would let me do the last lap inside the stadium. They were already handing out the prizes to the winners. Never mind I still managed to get a medal so I will now engrave it with: DNF, 41.88km, 4hr 26min.!!! Just makes it as unique as Pyongyang itself is. Who knows, when these current troubles die down, I may go back and give it another crack! It certainly was unique. I loved every minute of my trip and I wouldn't hesitate to return.
  4. 2 points
    It's taken me a little while to get to writing a race report, busy doing lost of family stuff after the race so it's actually nice to get back to work and relax a little! Haha Apologies in advance for the length, but you'll have to indulge me at least this once as I'm still pretty excitided/on a high after an amazing day. Race Lead Up I had a reasonable winter of training, hitting some reasonable consistency at around 8-10 hours a week with the odd week or two reduced due to illness. I completed Challenge Shepparton in 4:44 which was a 5 minute PB over the previous year. Stupidly in race week at Shepparton I had decided to do some 100m run throughs on the track the week of the race during taper and pulled my hamstring. I decided to race Shepparton with the injury, and as a result did some further damage. This injury took about 6 weeks to heal up, meaning very limited or no running for 4-6 weeks post Shepparton and a reduced bike volume. In total I averaged 9h 42min per week during the period after Shepparton to the week before race week, my biggest week was 15h 51min 8 weeks out from race day, weeks 4 and 6 out from race day were also in the 15 hour bucket. Two weeks out from race day and after I finished my last long run I ended up with quite severe pain in my right glute. I saw multiple doctors and ended up getting a cortisone shot in my glute the Monday afternoon of race week before flying out Tuesday morning. So no running whatsoever for the two weeks leading up to the race. Race morning I had a pretty good sleep, only woke up once to go to the toilet at about 2am. Woke up at around 4.15 and I could hear the wind howling. Got down to transition and it was really blowing. After getting suited up headed down to the water and there were small breakers on the beach, and you could see the chop out deeper form the water’s edge. Swim – 1:12 On Thursday morning I went out and did a swim of the complete swim course solo in calmer conditions and swam 1:06, so I was hoping to go a touch quicker race day with some drafting, but the weather gods were to have none of that. Being my first IM, and of course NZ being one of the very few (maybe even only aside from Kona?) that still has a mass start, I wanted to get the full IM experience and placed myself probably 1/3 of the way to the front, right in the middle of the pack. The cannon went off and we started swimming, there was quite a bit of contact for the first 500m or so. I swam over the top of a few slower swimmers that placed themselves right at the start, and had it paid back to me by a couple of guys that did the same to me from behind. There were also people crashing into me from the swell, where a wave would pick them up and throw them into my side. After 500m or so I found a nice set of feet and followed them all the way to the turn. Turning right, and wow. It actually felt like I was swimming uphill heading straight into the oncoming chop. That 50m segment felt like to took 5 minutes! Made the turn from home and again found a good set of feet, through sighting they were starting to go off course, so I left those feet and swam 500m or so by myself in a straight line then found some more feet which I followed all the way to the finish. I swam pretty straight the whole course and was happy with how I sighted. The conditions were definitely tough, but I really enjoyed the swim. Bike – 5:43 I had trained to try and hold an AP of 170w for the whole of the bike leg which I was pretty confident of doing, and knew that it was a pretty conservative number as I wanted to still be riding strong on the last segment back to Taupo as well as be in a good enough position to put together a decent marathon (by my standards anyway!). The conditions were as most people have already talked about, that wind was tough, but not that bad I didn't think. I’d have to say that aside from seeing a group of about 4 guys rolling turns in a pace line ahead of me get busted for drafting, and dropping a whole packet of shot blocks (damn!) by accident, the bike was rather uneventful. I found the surface actually quite good, I don’t know why everyone complains about how rough it is. I didn’t have any issues whatsoever. My only issue was that for some reason I could not get my heart rate down, on to the bike out of T1 I was at 160bpm which is pretty standard for me. In training I was holding 170w with a HR around 128-132bpm. An hour into the bike and my heart rate still hadn’t dropped below 150bpm which is not normal, even in a Half IM I sit low 140’s usually. I decided to trust the power I had been training at and focus more on RPE, which still felt easy through the whole first 90km. I made the turn for home back to Taupo for the last time and still felt good. I lifted the RPE and power a touch and started to pass a significant number of people. It became apparent that there might have been a few people who got a little carried away and overbiked the first part of the bike, there were a few people I passed really in the hurt box on that last segment. I actually averaged a higher AP and average speed the second time back to Taupo as I did the first which I was really happy with. Run – 3:55 My number one objective for my first IM was the enjoy the day, the second objective was to not walk the last half of the marathon. I had made a deal with myself before the race that there was to be no walking except at every aid station. My plan was to walk each aid station for 10 seconds, take on fluids/nutrition, then get running again quickly. I set out at a conservative pace on the run, which had been my mantra all day. I had heard that the best thing to do was be patient until the 32km mark of the run, so ‘be patient’ was something I kept telling myself all bike and majority of the run. First lap of the run felt pretty good, well as good as it could after just riding for 180km anyway. I found a good rhythm, and the km’s started ticking off one after the other. The whole first lap I was just soaking in the atmosphere and crowd which was amazing. Second lap and still feeling pretty good, I hit the first main climb on the run and started to feel some hurt. I kept on rolling at the same effort level but within the space of a few km’s it started to get really hard. I kept telling myself the deal I had made myself when I kept wanting to stop and walk, but instead just tried to block out the pain and kept running to each aid station. At about the 20km mark I started to get into a really dark/hard place mentally but just pushed on. It’s probably not the most advised strategy, but there was an ‘unofficial’ aid station some guys had set up halfway around the run course with a couple of chairs and a table with a few beers on it. The aid station before the ‘unofficial’ aid station I kept a cup with me. I ran up to the aid station with the beer, sat myself down in a chair and the boys poured me a beer in my cup to some pretty loud cheers and celebrating! They all huddled in for a group photo as a drank the beer, then a couple of minutes later I got up and kept going, again to a big cheer! I have to say from a mental standpoint that really helped! I got running again, found a rhythm to close out the second lap. The last lap started and I was hurting. I kept plugging away, and eventually got to the 32km mark and I don’t know what happened, but all of a sudden my legs came good. I told myself only 10k to go, I’ve done that so many times before, I’ve got this! Somehow I was able to up the pace, and the last 10km was almost as quick as my first 10km of the marathon. I was so happy to be able to finish this race strong, I soaked up the atmosphere on the way home, people on the side yelling all sorts of congratulations etc, what an amazing feeling. I hit the red carpet and my wife, daughter and a friend that came over to watch cheering from behind the fence. I high fived them on the way passed and crossed the finish line completely spent. A couple of volunteers had to hold me up as I walked over to the tent to recover. Finish – 11:03 (the beer might have cost me going sub 11!) Post-Race For the first couple of hours after the race: ‘I’m never doing that again, I’m done’. From the day after the race to now: how about IM Australia in May 2018!
  5. 2 points
    IP Knocked out his first marathon in 3.50. Currently at 60kms
  6. 2 points
    You can here. East Kunderang homestead on the Macleay River, run by NSW NPWS. An old settlers homestead, but done up with all the mod-cons inside. No mobile reception, no internet, no TV. Just sit on the verandah, listen to the crickets chirp and watch the wildlife hop by or fly overhead.
  7. 2 points
    What did I start! This post came after I bought red capsicum instead of green (cause red is like $2 dearer) and some dutch spiced gouda instead of homebrand cheese slices for my lunch. I need to get a life!
  8. 2 points
    41 and a bit now. I will never in my life get a pb again, don't really care love just seeing how I go when I put my mind to a bit of consistency. . Just did a surf trip for a belated 40th present to my self the difference from when I was 20 is how many surfs a day reduced ..how much farking voltaren we were all taking and well the size of my balls shrinking and the tightness of my sphincter. ..lol Few of the boys took this on I hid behind the outboard. .lol
  9. 1 point
    Another vote for e-go, they are owned by hunter transport, I have sent multiple 14ft Carbon stand up paddle boards all over the country with them and I've never had a problem, always well looked after, I'd certainly have no problem sending a bike with them. Pricing is very good, Last board i sent was Brisbane to Townsville and I paid $145, Bargain when considering the Awkward size of them.
  10. 1 point
    Damm you're a SOOK.
  11. 1 point
    I honestly felt sorry for you Tyno. Fantastic game and overall I believe we deserved to win but the elation of thinking you'd taken it with 20 second to go and then see that happen...only Richmond could do that to you. As for us? Knowing we had something in the bag further than five minutes out would be a nice change.
  12. 1 point
    He was actually hitting on you TC.
  13. 1 point
    hide it at work for sneaky lunchtime rides
  14. 1 point
    I'm not even remotely surprised by how many are doing it. I mean, we complain incessantly about drafting. We see dives in soccer. Cheating in other major sports. Let alone in everyday life. Look at the crap being dolled out to Ayto in the mental health thread. People are crap. Surround yourself with the few you can find that aren't.
  15. 1 point
    Ayto, I am seriously crying while I read that you've lost the battle. I can't imagine the feeling, or I would be more honest to say I don't want to imagine the feeling. Situations like this are why Dads like us who totally adore their kids tip toe around like "naughty boys" when we should now days be considered totally allowed to see and gain access to our children. Personally, I panda to strange requests and change my plans so I don't upset the Ex....I am scared she'll do something similiar....that would end me. Ayto, you have a group of people who love you and know how ****ING awesome you are. You have a beautiful bride who is a rock. Talk to us, talk to her, even talk to a professional if you want to work through it. And know from a guy who grew up being told his "Dad's a loser"....the kids do love you. Deep down inside their souls. It will show one day. Wishing you all the best with everything, take care, vent here. Stay safe Take care, Sam.
  16. 1 point
    This is what I was thinking. My fastest 70.3 and IM run splits came from my lowest run volume and lowest intensity run training in a build for 70.3 and IM respectively. They were also both neg splits. Most of my run training was done at slower than my race pace for both those races. I was also much stronger on the bike than I ever had been. I used to run as hard as I could in all my run training, including bricks, with the philosophy that belting myself at or close to threshold will make me stronger for race day. As Rog mentioned, that training actually is not specific and doesn't lend itself to running strong in the back end of an endurance race.
  17. 1 point
    We might complain a lot about wtc and things, but it seems when they get something right, they get it very right. Did you do that on purpose IP?
  18. 1 point
    I'll ask around for you. Have some friends in the game.
  19. 1 point
    Hey burgs took out the race overall. Cmon Trannie.. PJ 5th 8 mins back.
  20. 1 point
    I heard there were a couple in hospital and one guy I saw finishing was displaying the latest in gravel rash fashion - double ouch. glad I race sprints because I had a lovely dry bike, complimented by the fact that we got to turn around before the worst of the hill and pot holes. Running in the rain sux tho. i do like Byron bay triathlon, but having to wait two hours to get my bike was stretching the friendship when you are cold, tired and wet.
  21. 1 point
    Ayto, take heart mate. It could always be worse. For the first 7 years post-separation, the CSA was calculating my Child Support based on the information provided by my ex-, that I had zero contact with my daughter. At that stage, it was in fact alternate weekends and a couple of hours on a Tuesday afternoon. Once I discovered I'd probably "overpaid" around $20k aftertax dollars, I asked the CSA if there was anything I could do about re-adjusting the balance? Of course, if I had "underpaid" they would have insisted I made up the shortfall, however, they said there was nothing I could do about paying too much. LOL. Don't give up hope that someday things may get better. Miss 12yo cut me off in 2011, and wouldn't have any form of communication with me for a bit over 5 years. Then, out of the blue I got a phone call from her in Port Mac last year, and we speak on the phone and Facebook every week or so, and catch up for lunch every month or so. I was a bitter, angry man ( internally, at least) for a long time and my lovely, new wife couldn't ever get me talk about my feelings with regard to my daughter. Eventually, I just managed to stop letting it hurt me so much, and got on with "Living in the Moment". The next stage will be trying to re-integrate my daughter with my "new" family and my parents ( she is the only granddaughter). One day at a time. Keep up the good fight. If nothing else,always be true to yourself.
  22. 1 point
    Trout (Travis) Wayth | M 46 | Mowologist |
  23. 1 point
    That's why you have insurance! Maybe your tradie could steal Mrs Bored's rings so they get replaced on insurance, and you can still buy your Canyon.....
  24. 1 point
    You might not want this...... My mate asked his wife to grab a couple of tubes from the LBS. She came home with a brand new MTN bike for him about $5k worth of bike. She always hated him spending money on bikes, so it seemed really strange at the time but he loved the new bike & was pumped to be getting into downhill riding. Six months later it all made sense when he caught her banging some dude from her work...... My wife keeps threatening to buy me a new bike every time I give her the shits. Talk about messing with my head.
  25. 1 point
    lol - the race guide says that the highest point on the course is 84M above sea level. A 3km long @ 14% grade gives an altitude gain of 420M... something's not right...