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  1. 1. Do you suffer from a mental illness?

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    • Maybe - yet to see a doctor about it
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  2. 2. Do you know someone who suffers a mental illness

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    • Don't know but suspect they do
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Well, if my mental health was bad now, it will be worse soon. I have volunteered to take on the running of the beer mile at Port for the next 3 years. :lol:

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Well, while we've got some way to go with Kyan, I can say that the networks around him and his school just rock, like I'm talking foo fighter 3hr set ROCK.  He's certainly had 2 physical conditions which have exasperated his anxiety - he's not sleeping well and has large tonsils which may be affecting his airways; he's had inflamed nostrils and throat (not associated with his tonsils) so has had soreness there.  He's missed more than a week of school since starting 3 weeks ago, actually all in the last two weeks.  And wednesday he had a big freak out in the middle of the day when he thought we'd have to talk to the school about him etc, and ended up calling his psychologist he's seeing next wednesday, and then onto the child and youth mental health services at the hospital, as we thought we might have been dragging him up there.  But they were all really helpful, at least for us.  He eventually calmed down, I think from exhaustion.

While I'd spoken to his home room teacher (who was great), I decided to talk to his head of year.  They were fantastic, and pretty much immediately said to keep him home till after his psych appointment, then talk to them again.  We'll still try and get him to school but won't panic if we can't.  They're going to get his teachers to email us work for him that he can do here.  And they have plenty of options and programs running that can help out.  They have staff there whose job is to come around to homes to talk to kids who aren't coming in (she said it would be a nice change for them to have two parents who would welcome them into their home), but there's lots they can do.  From later starts if mornings are an issue, to dropping one class, or less days of the week.  And while I've got a doc certificate for some of his days off, she said don't worry about them, she'll sort it all out with the office!

It really took a load off for both me and Rob after that.  And I think they were pretty happy to have us being proactive to the point of contacting them ourselves - I don't think that happens there that much.

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Great news Goughy. That must definitely take some of the weight off your shoulders. 

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Me and Stikman are over. My heart is completely broken.

Let us never speak of it again. 

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20 minutes ago, Katz said:

Me and Stikman are over. My heart is completely broken.

Let us never speak of it again. 

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8 minutes ago, Katz said:

Urgh......today sucks. :(

Breathe in, breathe out, repeat.... XX

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There's lots of the out there, but I know this one is free. I've been using (no where near enough) an app called Smiling Mind for small meditation breaks.  Mostly is breathing and focusing on yourself.  It helps me and I wish I would remember to use it more often. It's crazy how a few minutes of focusing on your breathing can help calm and refocus you.

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7 minutes ago, goughy said:

There's lots of the out there, but I know this one is free. I've been using (no where near enough) an app called Smiling Mind for small meditation breaks.  Mostly is breathing and focusing on yourself.  It helps me and I wish I would remember to use it more often. It's crazy how a few minutes of focusing on your breathing can help calm and refocus you.

I use an app called Calm. Similarly, never use it enough, but always feel better when I do.

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Yesterday I woke up feeling a little better. The pain was less excruciating and I was able to see the beauty in what we had. I felt as though I had learned a lot about myself and what I wanted and deserved.  Today I am once again overwhelmed by confusion, pain and grief. I hate this so much.

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It does feel like a rollercoaster. Take a step forward, take a step back, repeat.  Take advantage of the days or times you feel ok.  Make use of all the resources at your disposal on the days you don't.  Remember, even people suffering the heaviest of depressions don't sit around feeling at their worst every minute of every day.  It's like waves.  Use what you have to to ride them out, then do your best to enjoy floating in the calm in between.

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On 10/02/2018 at 4:44 PM, goughy said:

Well, while we've got some way to go with Kyan, I can say that the networks around him and his school just rock, like I'm talking foo fighter 3hr set ROCK.  He's certainly had 2 physical conditions which have exasperated his anxiety - he's not sleeping well and has large tonsils which may be affecting his airways; he's had inflamed nostrils and throat (not associated with his tonsils) so has had soreness there.  He's missed more than a week of school since starting 3 weeks ago, actually all in the last two weeks.  And wednesday he had a big freak out in the middle of the day when he thought we'd have to talk to the school about him etc, and ended up calling his psychologist he's seeing next wednesday, and then onto the child and youth mental health services at the hospital, as we thought we might have been dragging him up there.  But they were all really helpful, at least for us.  He eventually calmed down, I think from exhaustion.

While I'd spoken to his home room teacher (who was great), I decided to talk to his head of year.  They were fantastic, and pretty much immediately said to keep him home till after his psych appointment, then talk to them again.  We'll still try and get him to school but won't panic if we can't.  They're going to get his teachers to email us work for him that he can do here.  And they have plenty of options and programs running that can help out.  They have staff there whose job is to come around to homes to talk to kids who aren't coming in (she said it would be a nice change for them to have two parents who would welcome them into their home), but there's lots they can do.  From later starts if mornings are an issue, to dropping one class, or less days of the week.  And while I've got a doc certificate for some of his days off, she said don't worry about them, she'll sort it all out with the office!

It really took a load off for both me and Rob after that.  And I think they were pretty happy to have us being proactive to the point of contacting them ourselves - I don't think that happens there that much.

That's great that the school is being so supportive 

If what they're sending you isn't detailed enough let me know. ... I'll pm you.  You're at at a state school, yeah?

On 14/02/2018 at 10:01 AM, goughy said:

There's lots of the out there, but I know this one is free. I've been using (no where near enough) an app called Smiling Mind for small meditation breaks.  Mostly is breathing and focusing on yourself.  It helps me and I wish I would remember to use it more often. It's crazy how a few minutes of focusing on your breathing can help calm and refocus you.

Thankyou for this! I've just messaged it to Dazz. He is struggling and I hope it helps him.

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On ‎2‎/‎14‎/‎2018 at 11:01 AM, goughy said:

There's lots of the out there, but I know this one is free. I've been using (no where near enough) an app called Smiling Mind for small meditation breaks.  Mostly is breathing and focusing on yourself.  It helps me and I wish I would remember to use it more often. It's crazy how a few minutes of focusing on your breathing can help calm and refocus you.

Catalyst did an episode on meditation/mindfulness (mental health benefit bit kicks in at the 11 min mark) a while back-:  http://www.abc.net.au/catalyst/stories/4477405.htm

Michael Mosley's 'Trust Me I'm A Doctor has also covered meditation/mindfulness -:  http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/articles/3dqFp4tkhsZ1VR97X0cmqhg/should-i-try-mindfulness

Seems to get pretty good results

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Funny how things can change rapidly. I have been reading the site again for a little while. I was reading this very thread on Friday thinking, I have been in a good headspace for a long time. Then last night one of my work colleagues was killed in a motor vehicle collision on his way to work last night. It was about 500m from my house. I drove past it, spoke to the crew on scene, but at that stage we didn’t know. I only found out this morning.

We weren’t particularly close, but I have known him since he was a trainee, 9 maybe 10 years. He leaves behind a wife and 2 young kids. 

I don’t want to go to work tomorrow, I don’t want to speak to welfare, I just want to tell them to **** off, because there is nothing they can say or do to change how I feel, or change what happened.

But I have to, I am upgraded, I have to make sure my troops are okay and the other members get the support they need. Because that is what is expected of me, that’s what I expect of myself.

 It’s just such a waste, should never have happened, didn’t have to happen.

There is no god, if a priest tried to tell me, this is all part of god’s Plan, I think I would punch him. There is no plan, life and death are sometimes seconds or centimetres apart.

 Rant over...

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Can't work it out.  Can't get one kid to school (even today), looks like they call it School refusal.....

Other kid, been strapping up her knee because it's hurt.  Wouldn't come home last Thursday because she had an exam the next day.  Wouldn't stay home the next day because of the exam.  Then asked me if I could drop her to the bus stop to save her the walk.  No probs, and on the way down the hall to the car she ducks into the toilet to throw up for a while.  Comes out and says - I'm right now, we can go.  I tell her I'll drop her at school instead........   Friggin kids, can't work them out.

Does anyone have any experience with kids and sleeping issues causing mental health problems like this?  My wife is very much of the opinion that if we can get his sleeping sorted then all this will likely go away.  He's been struggling to sleep well since pretty much before xmas (and my wife says it's troubled him longer than that).  He does have large tonsils, and we have an appoint with an ENT (a mate) and he'll most likely take them out, but the appoint isn't for another month yet.  I think the lack of decent sleep is exasperating a problem, she thinks it's causing it.  But it's gonna be a while before it's sorted so we still need to deal with things in the meantime.  But just how dramatic a problem can these things be for kids?

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I've got nothing Goughy. I wish I had an easy answer for you. Hopefully you guys will get to the bottom of it. And hopefully soon enough that the behaviour doesn't become ingrained.

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We've got an appointment to see the head of his year and the deputy principal tomorrow, and I contacted my mate who is the ENT specialist he was to see and he's bumped his consult up to Wednesday.  He's insisting he wants to be homeschooled now, but that ain't gonna happen.  We need our weekdays free to recover!

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Yes, that is a part of it; it's one of his best friend but he insists it's not an issue.  Have spoken to school and the boy's mother.  Kid's a bit of a rough nut, so the way he acts with Kyan he does with everyone, but does more with Kyan because he doesn't react well to it so everyone finds it funny.  He's also much bigger.

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worst kind of bullying unfortunately.  It's not overt and every one thinks it's funny except the butt of the joke.  I think it wears on them and even though they laugh it off, after a while they just crash and burn inside.  Hopefully the school counsellor or the psychologist will be able to give him the strategies to deal with it.  Good luck! 

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